You know as a kid I used to love WWF wrestling and trust me I just don’t have the time to watch it anymore and nor am I that interested in wasting all those hours on mindless television, however some people still love it. From the picture you can can see that two men are both down. However, one looks like he’s totally out and the other is attempting to get back up.
You know that these men have been in a knock down drag out fight and they really have been punishing each other and have truly knocked each other out. One of the men has the mentality that I am down, but I am going to get back up. The other is already down and obviously not getting up anytime soon. Just how did each individual get there?
Well this weekend my daughter and I were outside playing on her swing set and as a kid you know that at some point and time you are going to try to walk up the slide the wrong way to get to the top. Now, my daughter has been struggling with this but she wanted to show me that she could do it. Believe me when i say if she did not complete that task we would still be outside right now attempting to get her up the slide. I have seen so much growth in her in her ability to Never want to give up on a task and to want to see it all the way through. My daughter tried, and tried a few times to get up the slide only to slide down numerous times without even getting half way. Yes she groaned and moaned about not being able to get to the top but I told her not to give up, and to keep trying to accomplish that goal. Needless to say, after about 5 or so attempts my daughter was able to finally get up the slide from the opposite side. I’m not quite sure what the fascination was with doing that, even as a child I don’t know but I guess it’s a conquest thing that you need to make sure you can conquer before you can take on the next task.
My daughter could have easily given up on the task, but I think from seeing my example of dedication, hard work and persistence at anything that my wife and I do, it helped her to realize that she could not just quit, so she keep trying. Now some kids would have given up and said I Just Can’t do it. I removed the word can’t from our household vocabulary because that word does not help out the maturity and growth of you or your family, so we kept trying.
So how exactly do you get rid of the I Can’t Syndrome?:
- Never Accept it – The word is in the vocabulary and dictionary, but I rarely use it because if you buy into the belief of can’t you start to listen.
- Instill Confidence – Most people lack the confidence in themselves to accomplish goals that seem out of reach or impossible. Building more confidence will improve once you start to gain more confidence.
- Always believe in your ability – Believe in your ability to keep trying no matter the odds or circumstances. Many people will say we can’t do it. That’s code for keep going!
- Learn new skills – Always continue to Learn new skills because as you add-on new skills, it increases your knowledge to be able to resolve issues when an answer is not apparent.
- Demand Excellence – Most people can’t survive in an environment that demands excellence. That just means stuff is going to get done, and the I can’t people usually don’t thrive. Demand Excellence from yourself so that you keep yourself accountable.
- Think outside the Box – There are so many ways to Solve the I Can’t syndrome and thinking outside of your Normal way of thinking is definitely a way of doing that.
Question: How do you resolve the I can’t Syndrome? What other ways do you suggest?